Allow me to help you today if you have a problem with your spouse. It’s just a suggestion but if you can follow and apply it in your relationship; I believe it will help.
If you aren't willing to let your marriage die, if you aren't willing to let it fall apart right before your very eyes, then you have to do something about it. Here are a few things that can help you get that love back when "I want to get back with ex husband."
1. When you are doing the things that the both of you love, let him know how special you think he is and how much you value him. Let him know that you miss what you used to have. Let him know how you feel. It is easier to have those feelings reciprocated when you are both having fun doing something enjoyable. Don't be afraid to say, "I want to get back with ex husband." You may just find out he wants the same thing.
2. Begin with where you are in life and see where you are in life. Look at what it is that makes you happy and drives you. Look for the same thing with your husband. Try to find common ground. If there is love there, you will find that common ground.
3. Understand that it wasn't just you and it wasn't just him. It was the both of you. If you are willing to make changes in the way you deal with the marriage, your husband might be willing to. Some of it comes down to the way you look at the circumstances.
4. Realize that it wasn't all one person who is at fault. “It takes two to tango” the saying goes. The same thing is true in any relationship. It isn't just one person that makes it work and it isn't just one person that causes it to crumble. Don't put all of the weight on your shoulders and don't put it all on your husband's. Pull your weight and support him by example to pull his own in trying to make things right.
5. As soon as you have found that common ground, try to find some way to use that to your advantage. If there is something that brings the two of you joy, try to find some way for the two of you to experience it together. Let it seem like a natural thought and try to make it seem like it is his idea. Try and generate some thrill about it.
However you are advice don't go over board with the thrill, though.
You have to know that it may not be possible to get back the relationship to the level it was when it was at its peak. Just because "you want to get back with ex husband" doesn't mean that it is the best thing to get it back to the way that it was. You should believe, though, that what you saw as the high point of your relationship doesn't have to be the all time high point.
The best in life is still to come if you are willing to sacrifice the work that you need to do. Tell yourself, "I want to get back with ex husband, but I want the relationship back stronger than ever" and then work to make it materialize.
Wish you good luck in your marriage!
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